You Should Be There
Imagine that you are sitting alone in a park when you are sixty years old in a beautiful afternoon. What will you recall to mind in this situation? The happiest time with your families? The worst days in your life? The most important contribution you made? Maybe these scenes will follow through your mind like a movie. You will feel the smiles, the pain, again and again. Even the stone you are sitting on you can remember . It is exactly the one your 5-year-old son jumped off thirty years ago. At that time he was yelling and laughing. Why can you recall these scenes? Because you are there. If you are not there, nothing for you and nothing for the others.
If you are absent for the moments in your children's childhood, the absence is forever. Crisanta Sampang worked as a maid in Singapore and Canada and left her three little daughters in her hometown. She worked hard and benefited the family a lot: posted money back, presented the lastest fashion goods, sent her children to a better school. After working overseas for twenty-two years. She found out that she could not make up for her absence during her daughters' childhood. She missed the time she should have been staying besideher daughters, she missed their birthday parties, missed Christmas dinners, missed thousands hugs. She was not there during scenes. Blank will be foreven for her for these moments. Pity will be foreven for her daughters without their mother during these moments.
Parents are always the best friends and teachers of their children. You need not tell them what to do. You just need to live with them and do as you should do They will learn from you during their daily life. Children whose mother had gone away to work in another country, always met problems: many of them display tendenciers toward materialism because their mothers bought presents to make up for the absence. Many of them showed bad school performance or drup addition. Without parents taking care of their children, the chidren feel that is hard to tell bad from good behaviours. Like a little tree needs surpports and pretection hen it is young. Even though some of them did well in school, we still cant figue out the effects made by the absence of the parents. One of Crissaant Sampang daughter -Maricel, who suddeny married a man fifteen years older than hersef and left her baby to work overseas as her mother. Maybe it was one of the effects. Time is a one-way travel. You cannot go back and revert. If you are absent from the occasions, you are absent forever. You left the children aside, they grow up by themselves. So, if you have any choice, stay beside your children, just stay with them-you should be there.
